You're not a loser if you're alone
Have you noticed that most societies are geared toward relationships? In general, girls are taught that they're failures if they don't have a man. Both men and women are under great pressure from society to find someone. We are both taught to value our selves based on the partner we can get and keep.
Focusing on finding someone misses the point. Other people cannot complete us. It is important to know our selves before we find someone else. Love your self without arrogance, and others will love you without control.
It is alright to be alone. There is nothing wrong with loving, valuing and cherishing your self and your time alone.
When you hang out with yourself, who are you inside? What emotions, reactions, interests, likes and dislikes do you feel? Who are you, without the input of external forces? When you're alone, people aren't telling you who to be, not scrutinizing your every move. Now who are you? That's your solid foundation for a secure relationship if you want one.
I'm not saying you have to be alone. We're as unique as we are similar. If you want an intimate relationship, so be it. If you want to be alone, so be that too! Both situations offer a chance to learn about your self, when approached with the right attitude.
My point is that you don't need to be with someone. You're not a loser if you're alone. There's not something wrong with you just because you prefer solitude over company. You might just be onto something. Maybe you're getting to know yourself in a way that other people aren't familiar with. Don't let their discomfort stop you from finding your self in your way.
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Focusing on finding someone misses the point. Other people cannot complete us. It is important to know our selves before we find someone else. Love your self without arrogance, and others will love you without control.
It is alright to be alone. There is nothing wrong with loving, valuing and cherishing your self and your time alone.
When you hang out with yourself, who are you inside? What emotions, reactions, interests, likes and dislikes do you feel? Who are you, without the input of external forces? When you're alone, people aren't telling you who to be, not scrutinizing your every move. Now who are you? That's your solid foundation for a secure relationship if you want one.
I'm not saying you have to be alone. We're as unique as we are similar. If you want an intimate relationship, so be it. If you want to be alone, so be that too! Both situations offer a chance to learn about your self, when approached with the right attitude.
My point is that you don't need to be with someone. You're not a loser if you're alone. There's not something wrong with you just because you prefer solitude over company. You might just be onto something. Maybe you're getting to know yourself in a way that other people aren't familiar with. Don't let their discomfort stop you from finding your self in your way.
Check out the best drink in town, Go Green, Feel Great!
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